Aug 20, 2019
I saw this poster on Facebook yesterday and it was like BOOM! and YES !
This was me FOR YEARS. I was always “busy”.
I would make up stuff to do, when there was nothing to do. I was always “busy” – I always felt like I had to “stay on top of things” and “hold things together” or else my whole world would come crumbling down.
Is this you also?
I was always on high alert. Always in fear.
When I used to work for other people, like when I had my Monday to Friday, 9-5 job in NYC in publishing, I would be busy every second of every hour of every day – except for my one hour lunch – where I would go outside and basically do my best to recharge from all the non-stop brain activity.
I thought back then that I was trying to “look busy” for other people, to make sure everyone knew I was working. But then when I started working for myself and I was my own boss – and I WAS STILL busy all the time – WTF, RIGHT?? I was busy every second of every minute of every hour of every day – and no one was looking! It was just me! No one to fire me! No one to tell me to work! No one to give me a warning!
And yet – it was all work, work, work – stay busy – don’t let your guard down. I was still terrified to just stop, rest, relax and enjoy because I was deathly afraid of my life falling apart.
Stay busy! You got this! You’re good! All is well!
In my case, it took sickness to make me stop. I wouldn’t stop on my own. And life is just SO BEAUTIFUL that it is has auto-correctors in place for when you are not listening to your own inner voice that is instructing to rest, relax, stop, trust and enjoy. If you don’t listen, life will get your attention in other ways! Woooohooo!!!! Problems! Sickness! Things breaking! Woooooohooooo!!! Big flashing signals that you are very far off the mark from the truth of who you really are! So great.
I love the poster above: “Feeling the need to be busy all the time is a trauma response and fear-based distraction from what you’d be forced to look at if you slowed down.”
I wrote a big long post about this topic yesterday on Facebook which I have posted below for those of you not on Facebook – in case you want to read it.
Many people wrote and said: OH MY GOD! THIS IS JUST WHAT I NEEDED!
So I thought I’d resend. You can definitely relax and enjoy.
I love you.
PS: I’ll be in NYC for the Marie Forleo event on September 9th. Let me know if you will be there. I’d love to meet you – It’s going to be a mega-party!
Also – my book-study begins on Monday, September 16 – its free – 4 LIVE Calls on Monday nights at 7pm EST – we are reading Marie Forleo’s book “Everything is Figureoutable” – with a 30-day challenge to get crystal clear on what you want and why you want it – and then to rearrange your day so you find 2 hours per day (every day!) that you will currently ‘being busy” that you will not use towards your goal. It’s all in the book and I’ll describe it all in the class.
And finally – BELOW IS THE POST I WROTE ON FACEBOOK ABOUT BEING BUSY – Enjoy!
BOOM! AND YES! Step One in healing (and to a life of abundance and joy) is to be quiet – get still. Do nothing.
In the quiet space, where you are quietly centered and calm, you’ll be able to see the mind go absolutely completely nutso ballastic crazy. haha. seriously!
You’ll see the mind activity then – which YOU CANNOT SEE when you are busy doing, busy crushing your to-do list, busy being an inspiration to the world, busy being a busy-bee.
All that busy-ness is a veil of fear – fear that if you let your guard down and relax, your business and life will fall apart. It may. It probably will (lol) and this is a good thing.
Life should be flowing effortlessly for you – everything is meant to be EASY and FUN – and if it’s not, then you most likely are trying to hold your world together out of fear and control.
You’re afraid to let it all fall apart.
You don’t trust that you’ll be taken care of. We’ve been taught in time and space that if we do nothing, then nothing will happen. We have been taught we have to make stuff happen. We think have to keep our guard up at all times. Work. Work. Work. And this is just a belief that is sooooo not true. You are cared for, loved, protected and everything you need and want is GIVEN TO YOU – it literally will just come to you – if you would just trust, slow down, know that you are not alone, get quiet, focus on the light and love that is all around you – AS YOU.
In the quiet, you will see all the mind’s activity.
You will see what you have been afraid of – you’ll be forced to acknowledge and FEEL what your busy-ness is covering.
Most people will NOT do this. They just won’t. Too afraid. It’s a place of real terror. The mind goes straight into worse-case scenerio: homelessness, your business falling apart, your health falling apart, your family falling apart, all your friends turning against you … and finally, your own death, alone, a failure.
If you don’t believe me, try it. Be quiet and do nothing.
And watch what happens. The mind goes totally nuts schizo crazy with your to-do list. You will be amazed.
I’m over here LAUGHING IN JOY writing this post because this IS the adventure. Letting go of control and acknowledging that you will perfectly taken care of is the most fun I know of.
And yes – yes yes yes – there is a period of disorientation and confusion when things look like they are being taken away and are being dismantled. This is normal. Expect it. Most people scramble back “to safety” – back to the to-do list – back to trying to make something happen again, efforting, trying to get back into control to make sure things don’t fall apart again.
I’ve seen this in my own life and thousands of times in The free 40-Day Program that I created. People say: “I want a life of freedom and joy, doing what I love!” And then they go in that direction and things start falling apart (which like I said, is normal – your old life HAS to go if you want a new life – you can’t have both) and when things start falling apart, people FREAK OUT, and rush back to their old life, their old control habits, back to being a busy-bee.
If you keep being quiet, the voice will start screaming at you. Try it. See for yourself what happens when you slow down and decide to stop being busy.
But …. if you’re like me … a wild free Spirit … who truly wants a life of freedom and joy … you’ll take this journey. You’ll get quiet. You’ll be determined to not listen to the voice that’s screaming at you TO DO. You’ll ignore that voice. You’ll stay in the position of trust and faith, doing what you love – even if your life and business starts falling apart. ESPECIALLY if it starts falling apart!
If it falls apart, believe me, you were holding it together with your own fear and control issues. When you take your hands off the wheel, you get to see life unfold as it is meant to unfold, so beautifully you will cry your eyes out in gratitude.
You will wonder what you were so afraid of all those years.
Life is not meant to be a struggle. It’s meant to be easy, a great adventure.
I love you.