Mar 15, 2017
This message below was posted yesterday in the 40-Day Program private Facebook group.
I received permission to repost it here as a blog, which I am extremely grateful for. It’s one of the clearest messages I have received about someone seeing what they have used sickness for – and how that use is no longer needed. I have posted the message without the person’s name because of the personal details.
If you are experiencing “sickness” in your life (I love that she put the word “sickness” in parentheses!) then consider what you are using the sickness for. Often we are “sick” because as children we learned it’s a great protective device to keep us safe and to get love and attention. It makes us special. It’s gives us a fast way to bond with others as we share stories of symptoms and compassion. But now as adults, we can LOOK AGAIN and you can see that you don’t need sickness anymore. It literally serves NO purpose. If you don’t want to do something that is being asked of you, you can kindly and politely say “no thank”. If you need love or attention or prayers or kindness, you can ask for it!
You don’t need to get sick anymore. You can bypass it and ask for things directly. You don’t need sickness to get out of working a job you don’t like. You can take a day off or you can quit.
Disease = Disturbance.
All disease is in the mind, it’s a result (an effect) of a disturbance when you went slightly off track as a child of God. You are whole, innocent and perfect. Always have been and always will. But somewhere along the line, we were taught that we were bodies and that the world wasn’t a safe place. We were taught how to behave, how to be good, and we learned that if you got sick, you don’t have to go to school! You can stay home and your mom will give you soup and love and attention. And boom! A disturbance in the system!
f this disturbance goes unchecked (and uncorrected) for too long, it shows up as sickness. And yes, it appears very real! But you have the power to stop anything in its track by your own decision and change direction.
This letter is a great example of choosing a new life, showing up authentically and honestly.
Here you go!
Last night I had a little epiphany about my current “sickness” and long term injuries/sickness in my life. It came to me that if I am sick I have an excuse and a way out of being totally responsible for myself, my thoughts, my life.
A few days ago I was invited to help a friend’s family do some hard labor over the weekend and I immediately felt like I didn’t want to and I also felt like I didn’t have a good excuse why I wouldn’t be of service in that way. So I messaged her and said I haven’t been feeling well off and on so I most likely won’t make it. It was so convenient that I have been feeling sick off and on. I didn’t really have to lie or anything. But afterwards that communication didn’t feel very good or authentic. I wasn’t truly honest. I could have said thank you for inviting me, but I feel it’s for my greatest good not to come, I send you blessings for this wonderful event.
Then it hit me that when I was young, when my dad and my mom would be angry with me or physically abusive, it seemed to work if I cried and got mad at myself before they could. They had a harder time taking it out on me if I was already damaged. It seemed to cut through their anger just enough to pull at their heart and lessen the attack. Who is going to attack someone that is already bleeding and dysfunctional? I have watched them be so kind and loving and helpful to those that don’t seem to be capable of helping themselves.
My ego mind tells me I will disappear, fade out into the background of life, be neglected, be open to attack, if there is nothing that sets me apart from others. The ego uses sickness for uniqueness and for attention and fulfillment.
This weekend I really was feeling fantastic. On Sunday, I went to my family’s church to pick up my sister and take her home and the pastor there asked me, “So how is _____?” I said “great” without giving it too much thought- to my own surprise it just came out. Then he asked me again a couple of minutes later, like he forgot he asked me before. I said, “great” again, but slightly less enthusiastically, like- do I really mean it? Should I downgrade it to good? Then I have wiggle room in case I need it later. What if I say “great” and then things go south? Who will help me? I’ll only be judged for changing my mind so quickly…
So this is all the stuff coming up for me around “sickness.” I’ve definitely used it as a defense, an excuse, a way to get special love and attention, a way to stay small, to keep being a person and a body.
I have used sickness as a way to join falsely with others that also seem sick so we can feel sorry for each other, share in our mutual suffering and see others as the have’s and us as the have-not’s. I’ve used sickness as a way to keep from opening my heart and seeing the truth within me. I’ve used it as a way to not communicate honestly. I have just been afraid to let the real me out!
Thank you so much for listening. And by the way, I feel great today because I’m letting this go and I am GREAT-FULL that the shady tricks of my ego mind are being exposed. I am choosing love and health and real love from now onward! I’m giving love a chance to show me that it’s more than I could ever conceive or dream of. I love you all!
I love this letter. I hope it inspires you to look at your own life in a new way if you have been struggling.
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Now, it’s your turn! Do you find yourself not wanting to do things and using situations in your life (sickness, tired, pain) to get out of them? What about when you were a child … can you remember when the disturbance first began to occur? When you realized that you could “manipulate” things slightly to get attention, love, a day off? I would love to hear from you. Post your comments below!