Jul 30, 2019
If you were to sit quietly for a moment and think of the times in your life when you felt most vibrant, alive, free and happy, what comes to mind?
What are your best and favorite stand-out moments in your life-time?
What are the qualities/attributes that these moments contained?
For me, it’s the moments when something surprising and unexpected happened outside of my normal routine – and this FORCED me to be present. It’s the moments where I felt connected, centered, clear and powerful. It’s times when I decided to take a risk, do something bold, reach for the stars. One time I was on a NYC subway (on my first week there in 1992) and someone threatened to kill me. I was standing in front of him and he was being quiet when he suddenly went completely and absolutely berserk, filled with rage and anger. Somehow he superimposed his ex-girlfriend onto me and talked to me as if I had left him and kept yelling he was going to kill me – stand out moment!
I think my most stand-out memorable moment – the one that takes the top prize – is when I made a decision to leave waitressing in 1988 and move from Stowe, Vermont to Boca Raton, Florida to go to college and get a bachelor’s degree. There are many MANY more stand-out moments because I choose to live my life in a way where things are constantly new – but this one takes the #1 top spot.
And my first semester in Florida stands out in my life like a bright shining star.
WHY IS THAT? What happened there that made that time so memorable?
It’s because I made a decision to do something completely brand new and wipe the slate clean.
AND THEN I WENT AND DID IT!
I didn’t just think about it. I took action. I was bold. I was fearless, even though I was terrified! lol. The Great Paradox!
Nothing was familiar … and that made me super alert and present which is a state of being of ALIVENESS.
My most alive moments are when I say:
I’M DOING THIS.
I DON’T KNOW HOW, BUT I’M GOING. I’M IN.
SCREW BEING STUCK. SCREW ACTING LIKE I’M WEAK & HELPLESS.
And then I go. I figure it out.
And once you access THIS PLACE and THIS POWER, you find out that you were the one keeping you stuck the whole time.
You discover that …
WHEN YOU MOVE, MOUNTAINS MOVE.
Everything you need suddenly becomes available to you.
When I moved to Florida, I didn’t bring the past with me. No one knew me. No one knew my history. No one knew my story. No one knew I was a party girl. I decided to start with a clean-slate and live life in an entirely NEW way – as someone who was an A student, who studied a lot, who worked out at the gym every day, who rode a bicycle everywhere and who didn’t drink (that did all change later, just fyi, and my party-girl ways did return, but for my first semester, I did everything in a new way)
Before then, I had gone to college in Burlington, Vermont and got as Associates degree in hotel/restaurant management. I didn’t take it at all seriously. I was a major party girl, with no clear-cut goals. I earned myself quite the repetition and everyone knew me as a fun party girl. I didn’t really want that life anymore, but I couldn’t seem to break out of that image, no matter how much I tried. I was known for being a drinker, a free Spirit, someone who goes with the flow. Everyone knew me that way. I slept late. I partied hard. I stayed out all night. I was hungover through all my morning classes. I did the least amount of work I could possibly get by with and I often had very little money, which I spent on partying, on drinks in the bar and on bottles of vodka with limes and tonic to go with it.
I had graduated from Champlain College by doing the least amount of work I could in order to get the diploma. I think my grades were C’s and maybe a few D’s thrown in there. I didn’t care. I was only interested in sliding by in life, doing as little as possible. That was my story and I was sticking to it.
So I graduated with an Associates Degree (which to me was nothing more than a piece of paper) and I moved in with friends in Stowe Vermont and got a job waiting on tables in a breakfast/lunch place. I wanted to keep my evenings free for partying. I didn’t have money for a car. Either someone gave me a bicycle or I bought a bicycle. I can’t remember which, but I know that my mode of transportation was a bicycle. I biked to work in the morning, about two miles away. I waited on tables until around 2pm and then I biked home. This went on for several months and I knew summer was coming to an end soon and that there would be snow and freezing temperatures and the thought came: Something needs to change.
I would either need to buy a car for the winter months and I was feeling like I was in a dead-end life with a dead-end job. I totally loved the friends I was living with – that part was great – I loved those guys – we drank and partied together and laughed a lot – but I was 20 years old – and I saw that this life I was living would not go on forever.
I had very little money, the few dollars every week from tips from my breakfast/lunch waitressing gig which went towards rent, and like I said: vodka. My grades from Champlain were terrible and I had zero credit. So I really felt like, how the hell do I move out of this situation? I had no idea.
But I got an idea one day that I could go back to college!
I got really REALLY excited. I biked over to the Stowe public library after my waitressing shift ended at 2pm and started looking around how someone goes to college to get a bachelor’s degree with no money and no credit and terrible grades. I thought: “It must be possible. Right?”
This was in 1988. Back before the internet and cellphones.
I found out that it’s super inexpensive to go to college in the state of Florida if I became a Florida state resident, which I could apply for after living there for 6 months! I could apply for student loans. I could get a job in Florida and go to school at the same time. I started to see that it was totally possible and totally do-able.
I wasn’t sure if I would get accepted with my grades, but I had to at least try!!
I knew that I would never get in if I didn’t at least fill out the application, write the essay and apply.
So the thing I needed to do was figure out WHERE in Florida I wanted to go. That part was easy – AS CLOSE AS HUMANLY POSSIBLE TO THE OCEAN AS I COULD GET.
So I found a map of colleges in Florida and I took my finger along the Atlantic, starting in the north and with my finger I traced the Atlantic ocean and BINGO: Florida Atlantic University in Boca Raton, Florida!!
HERE I COME !!!!!!
And the rest is history. I got accepted to start in January 1989. I moved back home to mom and stepdad’s house to work a job with insane hours to make as much money as I could from September to December. Who was this girl??? Where was the slacker who was stuck? She was gone, gone, gone. I went to FAU. I had an A+ time. I got a job at the Marriott Hotel to pay for tuition, rent and food. I got student loans and I got a bachelor’s degree. And I got a stand-out memory!
I felt to share this story to get you thinking …
WHEN IN YOUR LIFE DID YOU FEEL MOST ALIVE?
What were some of the elements that the situation contained? Was it new and fresh? Did you make a decision to do something new? Was there an element of surprise? Was it a time of devotion and commitment? What makes it stand-out?
Post in the comments below and read what others have to say! Thousands of people come through this website each week and your voice and your story can make a difference in someone else’s life! So share from the heart and tell us how you show up! You never know who’s asking for prayer, seeking a change in their life and you can give someone the inspiration and encouragement to do things in a new way by your sharing.
So thank you for joining in this community and conversation!
And see if in remembering these moments makes you want to be a little more bold and curious and adventurous in your life now.
So that this next phase of your life becomes A STAND-OUT MOMENT FOR YOU.
Is there something you have been wanting to do?
Something you are afraid of?
Something you think is impossible?
GO FOR IT.
I look forward to hearing from you in the comments!
I LOVE YOU.
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